Attachment and Compassion: Working with Deactivated, Dampened Down (Hypoaroused) States

'Attachment and Compassion: Up regulating blue circle states using play, creativity and embodied awareness to work with Deactivated, Dissociated and Dampened Down (Hypoaroused) States' This is a one day workshop on the 23rd September 2019 in DERBY

Conference Details

Presented By: Graham Music

Date/Time: 23rd September 2019 at 9:00am until 23rd September 2019 at 5:00pm

Venue: Holiday Inn Riverlights, Morledge, Derby, DE1 2AY

Location: Derby

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Event Description

In this second workshop we will look closely at the complex challenges of working with more shut-down states of mind. Many clients  can present as quiet, cut-off, dampened down, and even hard to remain interested in. We will see how often they are out of touch with their own body-states, and how their drive and seeking systems can be deactivated, and this requires a different kind of therapeutic approach.These might be highly neglected clients, whose developmental potential was never triggered, or more dissociative 'deadened' ones who have shut-down after trauma,.  We will look at how these different presentations require different therapeutic approaches.

We will examine the early and later roots of such experiences, and use neurobiology, psychodynamic and CFT-informed approaches. alongside and awareness of autonomic states, including our own embodied countertransference reactions to such clients. Alongside teaching using slides and video-clips, there will be ample space for discussion as well as live supervision with role play for willing participants. 

Holiday Inn Riverlights, Morledge, Derby, DE1 2AY, Derby

Additional Information

This workshop will run from 9:30am - 5pm (Registration from 9am) 


This is the second in a series of 3 workshops, can be attended individually or as a set. Each will explore a central aspect of working with the aftermath of trauma. Each workshop will unpick links between attachment theory, neurobiology, body states and therapeutic work, using a psychodynamic, somatic and compassionate focused stance. The workshops will look at the clinical challenges of finding and maintaining a compassionate stance in relation to disrupted attachments. All 3 workshops will have trauma as a central thread and will feature research findings,  from attachment theory, neurobiology and their clinical implications, looking  particularly how early experiences give rise to specific attachment styles and, models of relating, and how these can manifest in clinical work. All 3 workshops will be taught using video clips and slides, but there will be space made for some experiential work, specifically in relation to understanding and working with body states, our own and our clients'. A thread running through all 3 workshops will be the an awareness of the practitioner's embodied countertransfrence to their clients


Recommended Reading

Music, G (2019) Nurturing Children: From Trauma to Growth using Attachment Theory, Psychoanalysis and Neurobiology. Oxford: Routledge

Music, G  (2018) Trauma and treading carefully: Walking delicate tightropes between safeness and emotional challenge. Journal of Infant, Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy17 (3):135-144

Music G (2018) Avoiding avoidance, neglecting neglect and deactivating attachment strategies. In Attachment and the Defense Against Intimacy (ed) Cundy, L. Oxford: Routledge, pp. 1-22

Music, G. (2016)  Nurturing Natures: Attachment and Children’s Emotional, Social and Brain Development. Second Edition. London: Psychology Press  


Workshop Leaders

Graham Music works with adults and parents in private practice and with children and adolescents primarily in the NHS. He has worked at the Tavistock Clinic in London for over a decade, where he also teaches on the child psychotherapy and other psychological therapy courses, and supervises therapists. He is a leading figure on training in child development, neuroscience and attachment theory, and has a particular interest in linking cutting-edge developmental findings with therapeutic practice. His clinical work in the NHS is primarily with issues of trauma and the effect of maltreatment on children as well as on the families and other adults in the lives of such children. He is the author of Nurturing Natures (2010), The Good Life (2014) and most recently, Nurturing Children (2019). For more information about Graham, please go to his website



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Lunch provided at the event will be vegetarian and will include eggs, but no meat or fish. However, please advise us of any dietary requirements in the notes section whilst booking online and we will try to accommodate your request.